Comments on: Book Club Monday #9

By: Jane

Jane — Mon, 13 Jul 2009 22:18:04 +0000

Blog Book Club Contest Winner! Good afternoon, everyone. I’ve randomly drawn a name out of a hat and this is what I got: Congratulations to #20 Michelle, you are this contest’s winner. Please send me a private email with your address and we’ll get your ARC of Easy on the Eyes out in the mail to you. Thanks to everyone for discussing the novel and I have really enjoyed our book club discussions! I hope to see everyone’s reader reviews online (at your blog, Amazon, or Barnes and Noble, Facebook…). Yours, Jane www.janeporter.com

By: CherylS22

CherylS22 — Sat, 11 Jul 2009 17:07:37 +0000

I think one person (me, in our case!) should be responsible for the routine finances such as paying bills on time. But, I think my husband should at least know where everything is & how everything is handled in case something happens to me. Any other financial decisions, such as investments & major purchases should be a shared responsibility.

By: Quilt Lady

Quilt Lady — Thu, 09 Jul 2009 05:43:13 +0000

I don’t know if its right for one person to handle all of the finances, but its that way here. My husband doesn’t want any part of it. If anything ever happened to me my dear husband would be up a creek because he wouldn’t know where to start.

By: Michelle

Michelle — Thu, 09 Jul 2009 02:27:58 +0000

I think finances should be an open book for both in a relationship. Taylor and Nathan’s relationship was a facade all the way around. Nathan kept Taylor in the dark and Taylor accepted it without question. She should have been asking the question instead of having Nathan shoulder all the responsibility. Nathan, on the other hand, should have involved Taylor. I still love the way everything turned out in the book. It is still one of my rereads.

I think it is normal for one person to handle the finances however I think both need to be involved.

By: kari n.

kari n. — Thu, 09 Jul 2009 01:24:56 +0000

I think it is normal for one person to handle all the finances. I handle ours, but I also make sure my husband knows our situation. I think both partners in a relationship need to be aware of what is going on. If they aren’t, you are just askng for trouble! I can’t comment on Nathan’s situation much, since I have not read the book yet.

By: Arlene

Arlene — Wed, 08 Jul 2009 19:54:25 +0000

I think you did a great job of portraying the emotional stages that Taylor went through when she realized they had know money. Also, I think Nathan’s behavior of hiding the truth was spot on for someone like him. Well done (as usual!)

By: Monica/Monie

Monica/Monie — Wed, 08 Jul 2009 15:47:46 +0000

My husband takes care of all the finances and keeps me informed. I am quite happy he does and say that its my job just to spend the money! And I do agree with Kathygee–it is an indicator of teh power of the relationship who handles the money. But my hsuband will say we have these bills to pay so we are tightthis week or no using the credit card this month. He is very good fiscally and we are secure becuase of it. He had to break me the firs t year we were married of my bad habits by taking my credit cards away! I am glad that he made me more fiscally responsible because when he lost his job we were okay since we were used to living carefully. That can backfire though too since sometimes I will be too cheap to buy something! LOL

I think Nathan felt that he owed it to Taylor to give her the life that she expected and thats why he never told her anything, although he should have. He didn’t want to disapoint her that he couldn’t keep her in the style that she had become accustomed to and didn’t want her to leave him or think that he had failed her. They were both such poor communicators and self-absorbed.

Hope you had a great 4th of July! My kids each had two parades with their marching bands and we went to our bff’s for a party afterwards! Take care!!!

By: kriss

kriss — Wed, 08 Jul 2009 14:57:09 +0000

I handle the finances but I would never think about holding back information from my husband. We have a very honest relationship; I am just better at the financial end.

By: Sabrina

Sabrina — Wed, 08 Jul 2009 13:37:34 +0000

I strongly believe handling the finances should be a shared thing in a marriage. Sure, the big part of paying the bills etc. is usually handled by one, but the other should always be on the loop, as I agree, you also have to think of the what if.
My Mom passed away suddenly in a car accident and my father, who worked abroad for years, felt it was easier to leave everything in her hands. However, for weeks after her death he was obliged to go from bank to bank to assess the situation as he didn’t even know where the money was. That was extremely stressfull for him and it taught us kids to take another approach to the finance situation.
Loved the book Jane and thought that if Taylor was not coming from more humble beginnings she would have not been able to cope as well as she did.

By: Suzanne

Suzanne — Wed, 08 Jul 2009 03:01:02 +0000

I have not yet read the book and it is actually on its way to me. I can’t wait. But from past experience the handling of finances should involve all parties involved. Both should take responsibility and understanding of how things are balanced. And if for some unforsaken reason one should no longer be able to contribute the other is not left in the dark. Secrets in a relationship are not healthy.