Comments on: Confession http://janeporter.com/janeblog/2009/07/confession/ Where Jane talks about everything on her mind...and yes, as usual, there is quite a lot on her mind. Mon, 26 Jul 2010 05:17:58 -0400 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 hourly 1 By: Jennifer http://janeporter.com/janeblog/2009/07/confession/#comment-29721 Jennifer Thu, 20 Aug 2009 20:27:23 +0000 http://janeporter.com/janeblog/?p=432#comment-29721 Jane, you wrote about your weight gain issues about a month ago, how's that going? I struggled to get the baby weight off after I had my son, and I found a way for him to "help" me work out. Someone had given us a baby bjorn as a present and every day when I was on maternity leave I'd strap him in the sling and go for long walks with him. We both got outside, it was great exercise for me, and as your baby grows and gets heavier, your endurance increases. So, next time maybe you both can go for a walk on the beach together with him right by your side. My son is three and my stomach muscles still haven't recovered, but ah, they're worth it. Good luck, hope you're healthy and well. Your son's beautiful. Jane, you wrote about your weight gain issues about a month ago, how’s that going? I struggled to get the baby weight off after I had my son, and I found a way for him to “help” me work out. Someone had given us a baby bjorn as a present and every day when I was on maternity leave I’d strap him in the sling and go for long walks with him. We both got outside, it was great exercise for me, and as your baby grows and gets heavier, your endurance increases. So, next time maybe you both can go for a walk on the beach together with him right by your side. My son is three and my stomach muscles still haven’t recovered, but ah, they’re worth it. Good luck, hope you’re healthy and well. Your son’s beautiful.

]]> By: Debbie http://janeporter.com/janeblog/2009/07/confession/#comment-29581 Debbie Sat, 15 Aug 2009 16:34:42 +0000 http://janeporter.com/janeblog/?p=432#comment-29581 Jane, I just want you to know that I look in the mirror every day and hate myself because I feel like I have no self control. But deep down inside I know I am the same person I have slways been. At fify-seven my face still looks good, not too many wrinkles, thanks to genes past down from my beautiful 83 year old mother. But I am at least 50 poundd heavier than I should be. I try but it is hard. I too want to be trim and attractive again, not only for my husband but for me. This world looks down on fat and although it is a pity and not right it is just so true. I admire you for coming forth with your feelings. I too write but have yet to be published and that also has my self worth at the bottom of the feel good about myself ladder. Anyway we will get there someday soon. I love your books. We must all think positive and love ourselves because as Loreal women say "Were worth it." Jane, I just want you to know that I look in the mirror every day and hate myself because I feel like I have no self control. But deep down inside I know I am the same person I have slways been. At fify-seven my face still looks good, not too many wrinkles, thanks to genes past down from my beautiful 83 year old mother. But I am at least 50 poundd heavier than I should be. I try but it is hard. I too want to be trim and attractive again, not only for my husband but for me. This world looks down on fat and although it is a pity and not right it is just so true. I admire you for coming forth with your feelings. I too write but have yet to be published and that also has my self worth at the bottom of the feel good about myself ladder. Anyway we will get there someday soon. I love your books. We must all think positive and love ourselves because as Loreal women say “Were worth it.”

]]> By: Linda from McKinney http://janeporter.com/janeblog/2009/07/confession/#comment-29140 Linda from McKinney Fri, 07 Aug 2009 19:56:45 +0000 http://janeporter.com/janeblog/?p=432#comment-29140 I haven't lost my weight from having my son yet - don't feel so bad (my son will be 39 this year. Enjoy the baby - love to you all. I haven’t lost my weight from having my son yet – don’t feel so bad (my son will be 39 this year. Enjoy the baby – love to you all.

]]> By: Y http://janeporter.com/janeblog/2009/07/confession/#comment-28999 Y Tue, 04 Aug 2009 22:52:38 +0000 http://janeporter.com/janeblog/?p=432#comment-28999 Hi Jane, I had also gained 50 lbs with my baby 22 years ago! I started riding an exercise bike and reduced my intake and snacked on cereal and vegetables. In a few months I went from 160 to 103! And now I am middle age, and went to donate my son's bicycle and instead hopped on and now love bike riding. For some reason the bike rides really tighten all of my troublesome areas. It really works! Hang in there.... Hi Jane,

I had also gained 50 lbs with my baby 22 years ago! I started riding an exercise bike and reduced my intake and snacked on cereal and vegetables. In a few months I went from 160 to 103! And now I am middle age, and went to donate my son’s bicycle and instead hopped on and now love bike riding. For some reason the bike rides really tighten all of my troublesome areas. It really works! Hang in there….

]]> By: Amy http://janeporter.com/janeblog/2009/07/confession/#comment-28998 Amy Tue, 04 Aug 2009 22:46:32 +0000 http://janeporter.com/janeblog/?p=432#comment-28998 I KNOW exactly how you feel! I have been carrying extra weight around for far too long! It is SOO hard to lose those extra pounds when you get upwards of 40. That being said, It took you a long time to get that beautiful little boy - with infertility and a pregnancy. Give yourself at least 9 - 12 months to take it off. Beating yourself up will only frustrate you. You can and will do it. My sister had triplet boys 3 weeks before her 49th birthday! Today they are 5 years old and she is in fantastic shape. Take some of your advice from this book (which I loved!) - the beauty is inside you! Also a sense of humor helps... some times I think someone switched all the mirrors to those 'funhouse' mirrors:) I KNOW exactly how you feel! I have been carrying extra weight around for far too long! It is SOO hard to lose those extra pounds when you get upwards of 40. That being said, It took you a long time to get that beautiful little boy – with infertility and a pregnancy. Give yourself at least 9 – 12 months to take it off. Beating yourself up will only frustrate you. You can and will do it. My sister had triplet boys 3 weeks before her 49th birthday! Today they are 5 years old and she is in fantastic shape. Take some of your advice from this book (which I loved!) – the beauty is inside you! Also a sense of humor helps… some times I think someone switched all the mirrors to those ‘funhouse’ mirrors:)

]]> By: LadyLD1960 http://janeporter.com/janeblog/2009/07/confession/#comment-28997 LadyLD1960 Tue, 04 Aug 2009 22:19:48 +0000 http://janeporter.com/janeblog/?p=432#comment-28997 How funny that a woman of your age, who should be evolved, is so concerned about being a size 10-12 (Marilyn Monroe's size by the way). Millions of women across America would be thrilled to be a size 10, how unfortunate that you feel this way. On top of that, you just had a baby for goodness sakes, you have other more important things to worry about. How funny that a woman of your age, who should be evolved, is so concerned about being a size 10-12 (Marilyn Monroe’s size by the way). Millions of women across America would be thrilled to be a size 10, how unfortunate that you feel this way. On top of that, you just had a baby for goodness sakes, you have other more important things to worry about.

]]> By: Marta http://janeporter.com/janeblog/2009/07/confession/#comment-28885 Marta Sun, 02 Aug 2009 06:36:59 +0000 http://janeporter.com/janeblog/?p=432#comment-28885 You can do it. I am 5' and weighed over 300lbs. I was going to have surgery so lost 42 pounds. After the surgery I gained about 8 pounds back and am only now ready to begin again. My not so secret is trainer Mark Gendron, he was into nutrition and fitness before it was the thing to do (I struggle with weight all the time and worked out with him a decade ago for a time and again lost a chunk of weight, unfortunately finances have me flying or not so much flying solo). Best of luck, I love your books unfortunately for me when I start one I want to read it straight through, which can really make me a grouch at work the next day : ) Best to you. You can do it. I am 5′ and weighed over 300lbs. I was going to have surgery so lost 42 pounds. After the surgery I gained about 8 pounds back and am only now ready to begin again. My not so secret is trainer Mark Gendron, he was into nutrition and fitness before it was the thing to do (I struggle with weight all the time and worked out with him a decade ago for a time and again lost a chunk of weight, unfortunately finances have me flying or not so much flying solo). Best of luck, I love your books unfortunately for me when I start one I want to read it straight through, which can really make me a grouch at work the next day : ) Best to you.

]]> By: Laura Bruno http://janeporter.com/janeblog/2009/07/confession/#comment-28807 Laura Bruno Thu, 30 Jul 2009 18:19:15 +0000 http://janeporter.com/janeblog/?p=432#comment-28807 Hi Jane, Thanks for the follow on Twitter. It was timely since I just watched Flirting with Forty last week! (Loved it, BTW ...) I wrote this article a couple years ago, but it includes some observations from my work as a Medical Intuitive regarding why the weight sometimes doesn't come off and why people who normally "wouldn't" have food/weight issues find that they do: http://tinyurl.com/lqjoyq I wish you and all those who commented peace and many blessings, Laura Hi Jane,

Thanks for the follow on Twitter. It was timely since I just watched Flirting with Forty last week! (Loved it, BTW …)

I wrote this article a couple years ago, but it includes some observations from my work as a Medical Intuitive regarding why the weight sometimes doesn’t come off and why people who normally “wouldn’t” have food/weight issues find that they do: http://tinyurl.com/lqjoyq

I wish you and all those who commented peace and many blessings, Laura

]]> By: Alexandra http://janeporter.com/janeblog/2009/07/confession/#comment-28775 Alexandra Thu, 30 Jul 2009 05:30:15 +0000 http://janeporter.com/janeblog/?p=432#comment-28775 I, sadly, know how you feel. Be patient, and work hard. The weight will come off. Just be patient with yourself. You have a baby to show for it, and that is permanent!! The weight is temporary, and will be a thing of the past. Just take care of yourself, time will pass, and you will be in shape again. Believe that. Bit by bit, you will get there. I gained 73 lbs with my 3rd child, delivered him at age 43. Took one year to get the weight off but it came off. That was 7 yrs ago, and I am the size I like being. I, sadly, know how you feel.

Be patient, and work hard. The weight will come off. Just be patient with yourself. You have a baby to show for it, and that is permanent!! The weight is temporary, and will be a thing of the past. Just take care of yourself, time will pass, and you will be in shape again. Believe that. Bit by bit, you will get there.

I gained 73 lbs with my 3rd child, delivered him at age 43. Took one year to get the weight off but it came off. That was 7 yrs ago, and I am the size I like being.

]]> By: Deb http://janeporter.com/janeblog/2009/07/confession/#comment-28724 Deb Tue, 28 Jul 2009 12:15:14 +0000 http://janeporter.com/janeblog/?p=432#comment-28724 Isn't it natural that our rational self can explain away that your body needs time, every pregnancy is harder on the body and will take time to recover and bounce back. And what's important is your healthy new baby. Plus you have the love of a wonderful man and two other wonderful kids. However, our nonrational inner self is the one we end up listening to....so as speaking as someone who's been heavy most of her adult life (it took me 18 years to lose my baby weight..and actually I'm still losing it...) Allow yourself to wallow a little bit- but not to the point of shutting down. Go out and buy yourself a really cute sundress or new cover up in your current size- you'll feel better and won't be afraid to go out. (You looked terrific in the photo you posted!) Besides, this time of year everything is on sale!! Continue to eat healthy, get some exercise and before you know it- you'll be back in those pre-pregnancy jeans. And if even if you never get there again- it's okay. You're a beautiful person on the inside and out and that's what counts! Isn’t it natural that our rational self can explain away that your body needs time, every pregnancy is harder on the body and will take time to recover and bounce back. And what’s important is your healthy new baby. Plus you have the love of a wonderful man and two other wonderful kids.
However, our nonrational inner self is the one we end up listening to….so as speaking as someone who’s been heavy most of her adult life (it took me 18 years to lose my baby weight..and actually I’m still losing it…) Allow yourself to wallow a little bit- but not to the point of shutting down. Go out and buy yourself a really cute sundress or new cover up in your current size- you’ll feel better and won’t be afraid to go out. (You looked terrific in the photo you posted!) Besides, this time of year everything is on sale!!
Continue to eat healthy, get some exercise and before you know it- you’ll be back in those pre-pregnancy jeans. And if even if you never get there again- it’s okay. You’re a beautiful person on the inside and out and that’s what counts!

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